關於 girlfriend project day 1 ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

【989陽光列車 0900-1200 每週歌單】

11/20 (五)
09:02:54 一路上有你(live) 張學友
09:07:56 我心中尚未崩壞的地方 五月天
09:13:17 Walk With Me Bella Thorne
09:18:58 雨季不再來 鄭興
09:24:04 跳上車子離開傷心的台北 動力火車
09:28:09 動物森林 范瑋琪
09:36:11 Let Go 陳瑾緗
09:39:53 Venus(以葡萄牙文重新詮釋經典名曲) Pat C 派希*
09:43:14 華麗的獨秀 SOLO Super Junior-M
09:49:06 愛心樹遍人間 蘇盈之
09:52:42 Shut Up N' Let me Go SF9
Total time is 60:01
10:04:19 You've Got A Friend In Me Michael Buble 麥可布雷
10:07:43 花火 丁噹/阿信
10:11:41 你的情歌 TANK
10:18:39 原來你也唱過我的歌(粵) 梁靜茹
10:22:48 思舊 GReeeeN
10:31:36 Suit &Tie Justin Timberlake/Jay Z
10:38:02 睡不著 壞特
10:41:58 少年董 頑童MJ116
10:49:32 春光 黃鶯鶯
10:53:42 這樣的你 PIA吳蓓雅/異鄉人
Total time is 60:00
11:04:04 真心不騙 陳零九
11:09:39 幸福了 然後呢 A-Lin
11:14:42 You Need To Calm Down Taylor Swift 泰勒絲
11:19:56 See You 阿羅哈(台) 黃妃
11:23:34 當我知道你們相愛 何維健
11:28:04 好想好想妳 鄧紫棋
11:34:17 MORE & MORE TWICE
11:38:19 等待 Jinbo
11:42:20 絕 莫文蔚
11:48:56 Heart And I我心與我 Robbie Williams
11:53:33 北斗星 溫嵐
Total time is 60:00

11/19 (四)
09:03:12 我要飛 草蜢
09:06:47 我比從前想你了 Bii畢書盡
09:11:23 Get The Party Started (remix) P!nk 紅粉佳人
09:17:41 野蠻遊戲 蔡依林
09:22:12 謝謝你的美好 嚴爵
09:25:21 問號 黃右年/屁孩 Ryan
09:33:02 Round and Round 陳嘉唯
09:37:17 6分滿 許書豪
09:40:44 #WYD iKON
09:48:40 I Don't Want To Toni Braxton
09:52:50 突然心動 陳曉東
Total time is 60:01
10:04:10 Freedom Kygo/Zak Abel
10:07:24 It's You Super Junior-M
10:10:23 輸給你 張立昂
10:16:40 一起走過的日子(粵) 劉德華
10:20:24 乘風破浪 崔子格
10:24:50 告白氣球 周杰倫
10:33:33 25歲永遠論 juice=juice
10:38:47 練習愛情 王大文/KIMBERLEY 陳芳語
10:42:49 大風吹 曾沛慈
10:50:04 這些那些 郭子
10:53:48 Friends Meghan Trainor
Total time is 60:01
11:04:01 愛 鄭秀文
11:08:00 最寂寞的歌 MFM
11:12:26 給我走 孫伯綸
11:20:40 留乎人探聽(台) 郭婷筠
11:25:17 全力以赴 柯有倫
11:28:48 Say It Isn't So Bon Jovi 邦喬飛
11:36:42 Always Turbo
11:41:30 stay Jinbo
11:44:55 Try It 回聲樂團
11:51:25 再見不見 童立安
11:55:42 Savage Love (Laxed - Siren Beat) Jason Derulo/Jawsh 685
Total time is 60:01

11/18 (三)
09:03:08 我要輕輕為你唱首歌 許慧欣
09:07:24 倖存者 林俊傑
09:11:58 SURVIVOR Daniel Powter 丹尼爾
09:16:38 雙影 林憶蓮/張惠妹
09:21:39 You & I 閻奕格
09:25:26 愛你3000 潘瑋柏/黃旭,肖恩恩
09:33:56 Girlfriend (English Ver.) Avril Lavigne 艾薇兒
09:38:30 GYM 自由發揮
09:42:33 捉迷藏 SF9
09:48:43 你的名字像一首詩 羅文裕/彭佳慧
09:52:18 美麗 周慧敏/王菀之
Total time is 60:00
10:04:12 不愛了 李玖哲
10:08:59 老實情人 鼓鼓
10:13:27 Naked Ava Max
10:19:33 季候風(粵) 王菲
10:24:06 陪我一起做夢 黃致列
10:28:46 WAIT(clean version) 瘦子E.SO
10:36:34 紅蓮華 LiSA
10:41:26 只有夜來香 盧廣仲
10:50:02 重提往事 周治平
10:54:37 Simple 葛仲珊
Total time is 60:02
11:04:11 Boyfriend (Edited) Ariana Grande/Social House
11:07:13 S.N.G(SUPER NICE GIRL) 周湯豪
11:11:21 邊吃巧克力邊倒立 瑞瑪席丹
11:17:15 愛我你會死(台) 草屯囝仔/玖壹壹-洋蔥
11:20:51 溫柔 五月天/孫燕姿
11:25:17 大海 Jaywalk
11:35:11 Oh Baby! Jinbo
11:38:58 陪伴幸福 黃錦雯
11:45:55 Senorita Shawn Mendes 尚恩曼德斯/Camila Cabello
11:49:04 I Don't Care 李玟
11:52:57 如果我們再相遇 王笠人
Total time is 60:00

11/17 (二)
09:03:16 MY BOY 女孩與機器人 The Girl And The Robots
09:07:46 因為有你 四個朋友
09:11:10 愛那麼新鮮 The Lighters 萊特姊弟
09:16:54 Fix You Glee Cast 歡樂合唱團
09:21:24 誰(2020版) 李友廷
09:26:05 Beautiful Love 蔡健雅
09:35:21 The Lady In Red Chris De Burgh 克利斯迪博夫
09:46:12 Let Go 陳瑾緗
09:48:54 妳的微笑 陳零九
09:56:18 心還是熱的 S.H.E
10:00:03 有一種人 橘子果醬
Total time is 60:01
10:04:10 說謊 林宥嘉
10:08:27 享受風 林芯儀
10:11:47 Cake By The Ocean DNCE
10:17:45 Double Trouble(粵) 張學友
10:20:55 Uptown Girl (extended ver.) Westlife
10:26:03 創造青春 七月半
10:33:13 Boy With Luv BTS 防彈少年團/Halsey
10:39:47 無法度按night WHY NOT/Erika 劉艾立
10:48:06 如何忘記你 張若凡
10:58:21 永遠不回頭 張雨生/等人
Total time is 60:01
11:04:01 只怕想家 侯磊
11:08:23 緩慢 黃美珍
11:13:39 We Will Rock You(小孩版) KCPK
11:18:53 查某囡仔(台) 李千那
11:23:45 跳上車子離開傷心的台北 動力火車
11:27:48 沒有不可能的事 嚴爵
11:36:21 戀愛登場 冰淇淋少女組
11:40:31 I Love U So Jinbo
11:44:03 A Song For You 松下優也
11:51:58 全世界的朋友都讓我失望 吳卓源
11:55:25 I Feel Love Sam Smith
Total time is 60:01

11/16 (一)
09:03:25 花水木 May J.
09:09:09 唯一的理由 潘嘉麗/周定緯
09:12:19 No Matter What Calum Scott
09:18:24 思念是一種病 Sirens
09:22:00 都挺好的 江靜(呆寶靜)/張震嶽
09:25:49 讓 楊宗緯
09:35:26 It Must Have Been Love Roxette
09:40:38 証明 flumpool
09:48:27 輸給你 張立昂
09:51:38 留給你的愛 吳汶芳
Total time is 60:01
10:04:12 Endless Love Mariah Carey瑪麗亞凱莉/Luther Vandross
10:08:28 有感情歌 黃鴻升
10:12:49 看見全世界 楊培安
10:18:31 我不認識你(粵) 楊丞琳
10:21:53 Connected SOIL&"PIMP"SESSIONS/長岡亮介
10:25:33 問號 黃右年/屁孩 Ryan
10:33:36 回憶的聖誕節 JS
10:39:37 不愛我就拉倒 周杰倫
10:43:38 剪刀石頭布 影子計劃 Shadow Project
10:51:41 滾滾紅塵 陳淑樺/羅大佑
10:54:43 Another Day of Sun La La Land
Total time is 60:01
11:04:11 暫時的記號 林俊傑
11:08:09 我想你了 魏妙如
11:12:41 癡情的男子漢(台) 玖壹壹/UnderLover-睿兒
11:21:39 不怕付出 藍心湄
11:26:07 沙上的旅途 趙樹海
11:28:47 Poker Face Lady Gaga 女神卡卡
11:37:09 Love Song 七公主
11:41:22 dance Jinbo
11:44:31 愛的正負極 TANK/文慧如
11:50:32 甜蜜小迷信 ROOMIE
11:54:50 One and Lonely CXLOE 克蘿伊
Total time is 60:00

網上又有「藍能否變黃」的第N回討論。其實當然有成功例子啦。

被催淚彈殻射到爆缸仍記掛著翌日能否帶女友和未來外母去旅行。這是個可歌可泣的愛情故事。

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雄仔（化名） 護士 31歲

2019年11月8日深夜，雄仔與女朋友路過旺角惠豐中心，遇上市民與防暴警對峙。他倆看見警察有異動，正想離開現場，但警方已開始發射催淚彈。彈殻擦過雄仔的頭部，即時血流如注，留下3cm的縫針疤痕。

「講起就激氣（光火），在前線受傷我反而開心。」當時旺角街頭有防暴警察列陣，市民向他們叫罵，「都係『撚狗』（調侃警察）。」然而「撚狗」會令警察暴怒，繼而報復，「現在他們把催淚彈當子彈用啦。」雄仔褂彩，同為護士的女朋友嚇得哭了，但他仍然冷靜，心想：「仆街了（靠）！明天還能飛嗎？」

因為參與抗爭，加上工時長，雄仔自6月以來都沒有好好陪伴女朋友，「她也是黃絲，覺得不應該拿這些事來詐型（發難），藏在心裏，但你會感受到她的不滿。」計劃已久的小旅行算是補償，還要帶著未來外母同遊，「始終是女孩，需要陪伴、關心，要有拍拖活動。」他去醫院縫針後，翌日按計劃出發。

雄仔的女友和家人知道他有上街遊行，卻不知道他是「家長」，助養了9名只有10幾歲的「子女」。8月18日的大型遊行，他到達終點後轉入夏愨道，看看有何事發生，「有人呼召社工，有個小朋友在哭、嚷著要自殺，因為屋企是藍絲。我想，我應該可以幫忙。」雄仔就此成為「家長」。子女又介紹其他子女，漸漸膝下承歡。

除了提供情緒支援，雄仔也為子女提供零用錢，「『文具』 好貴，我常叫他們以安全為先，有事就棄裝，再買過。」「仔女都好生性。要把塞錢偷偷攝入gear(抗爭裝備)，怕他們不肯要。」「文具」就是防毒面具和濾罐，每套大約1000港元，「我有工作，可以撐住，只是花了積蓄，對不起女友啦。」至今他已花了6、7萬元在子女身上，「她知道我花了1000元都肉赤到死（心疼得要死），怎敢跟她說？」

需要接濟的少年很多來自建制家庭，因為政見而被斷糧草、甚至斷六親。 若雄仔晚生十幾年，他很可能是其中之一，「我爸是紅底。自細他就跟我說票投民建聯（親北京政黨），不然就脫離父子關係。」2016年立法會新界東補選，他仍是投民建聯的周浩鼎，2014年雨傘運動當然沒有參與，「之前的抗爭關於政制，可能我未感受到對人生自由有重大威脅。實行雙普選需要時間，香港社會始終未成熟。」直到政府強推《逃犯條例》修訂，他才感到刀刃在脖子上，「明明是一國兩制， 可以引渡逃犯，就會造成破窗。事事都要跟大陸接軌，要引入計分制（社會信用評分制度）嗎？」怕中港區隔蕩然無存。

在2019年11月的區議會選舉，雄仔首次「倒戈」，「大氣候是分顏色（政治立場）投票。我也不相信泛民主派，不信有救世主，但我就是要建制派輸。雖然我仍然覺以地區事務而言，建制派做到的比反對派多。」因為官僚樂於賣人情予建制派。雄仔有個親戚曾購買私煙，遇著海關放蛇，因為數量頗多，有轉售的嫌疑，房屋署以從事非法勾當為理由，想收回他的公屋單位。後來由建制派區議員出面求情，才得以過關，「如果找泛民議員幫手，房署不會給他面子。」

雄仔與家人住在狹小的公屋單位，因為要收藏大量「文具」，近月已搬到朋友家中。他與女友關係穩定，卻未想過同居，「租金貴，如果可以搬出來，就可以結婚啦。」「我女友很依賴、很需要照顧。待這件事（抗爭）完結再談吧，不然應付不了。她去旅行連目的地都不知道，帶行李去機場就是了。我計劃好行程，她便跟著我走。」

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Hung（alias） 31 years old Nurse

In the middle of the night of November 8th, 2019, Hung and his girlfriend passed by Wai Fung Plaza in Mongkok and stumbled upon a confrontation between citizens and the riot police. The police fired tear gas bombs when the two started to leave. Hung was hit by a bullet case on his head, leaving a three-centimeter long scar.

“I get so mad every time I talk about this incident. It would have been worthwhile if I was injured at the frontline in a protest,” said Hung. At the time, there were riot police on the streets of Mong Kok. The public was yelling and having arguments with them. That made the police angry, so they retaliated. “Nowadays, the riot police use tear gas bombs as bullets,” said Hung. Hung’s girlfriend, a nurse, was crying from fear when he was hit. However, Hung was calm, only worrying about if he would need to cancel their trip for the day after.

Because of his participation in protests and long working hours, Hung hadn’t spent much time with his girlfriend since June. “She is also a pro-democracy supporter so she understands and never complains, but I knew she was upset about me not spending enough time with her. The get-away trip we had planned was considered to be ‘compensation’ for her. We were also taking my future mother-in-law with us. As a girl, I understand she wants company, care, and time from her boyfriend,” said Hung. After getting stitches at the hospital for his wound, Hung went on the trip.

Hung’s girlfriend and his family know that he participates in protests, but they don’t know he is also a “parent” who helps “raise” 9 teenagers. On the protest on August 18th, he was at Harcourt Road after the end of the protest. He heard someone calling for a social worker. A kid was crying and saying he wanted to commit suicide because his parents are pro-establishment supporters. Hung thought he could do something to help. That’s how he became a “parent” and ended up helping more kids.

In addition to providing emotional support, Hung also helps them financially by giving them money. “ ‘Stationery’ is expensive. I always remind them that safety is the first priority. They should leave their gear behind if they need to run. They can always repurchase their gear. These are good kids, and they don’t always accept my offers, so I need to secretly hide money into their gear for them,” said Hung. The ‘stationery’ is actually protective gear like gas masks and filter canisters. Each set costs approximately HK$1,000. “I have a job, so I can afford them. I spent my savings, so it made me feel bad for my girlfriend, as I didn’t tell her exactly how much I had spent on the kids,” said Hung. Until now, Hung had already spent over HK$60,000 to HK$70,000.

Most of the kids Hung helps are from pro-establishment families. Having different political views, these kids don’t get support from their families and are left with no money and no place to stay. Hung thinks if he were born ten years later, he could have been one of these kids. “My father is an extreme Beijing-backed establishment supporter. He has told me to vote for Democratic Alliance for the Betterment (DAB), a pro-Beijing party since I was a kid. Otherwise, he would disown me,” said Hung. Up until the 2016 New Territories East by-election in the Legislative Council, he still voted for DAB’s Chow Ho-ding, Holden. Of course, he didn’t participate in the Umbrella Movement in 2014. He said the previous protests were about the political system, so he might not have felt a major threat to his freedom then. “It took time to implement universal suffrage, and Hong Kong wasn’t ready.” It wasn’t until the government forced the revision of the “Fugitive Offenders Ordinance” that he finally realized, “If the one country two systems could extradite the fugitives, this change would become a breaking point, with everything in line with the mainland China.”

In the November 2019 District Council election, it was Hung’s first time he didn’t vote for the DAB, “Voters voted based on their political stance. I don’t believe the pan-democrats but I don’t want the pro-establishment parties to win either. Although I still feel that in terms of local affairs, the pro-establishment parties had done more,” said Hung, since the bureaucrats are willing to give favors to the pro-establishment parties. For example, a relative of Hung was caught buying illegal cigarettes, he was suspected of reselling them. The Housing Department wanted to take back his public housing unit on the grounds of engaging in illegal activities. Later, it was the district councilor of the pro-establishment party that helped resolve the issue.

Hung and his family live in a tiny public housing unit, which doesn’t allow him to keep all the ‘stationery’ there, so he moved in with his friend. But he never thought about moving in with his girlfriend. “Rent is expensive. If we could afford to move out, we would get married. She is very dependent and needs to be taken care of. We will wait and talk about marriage later until the civil rights protests are over,” said Hung.

攝 photo：高仲明 Ko Chung Ming
文 text：蔡慧敏 Choi Wai Man
譯 translate：Joanna Ng

Sometimes, you don’t know your worth. You just don’t know. If you do, then you’d not allow yourself to be mistreated constantly. You think you’ve met the "right" one when he makes you laugh, when he shows that he cares and you believe him without a doubt. If he truly cares, and love you - he wouldn’t want to be the reason for the downfall of your mental health. Yet, you gave him another chance. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And when you’ve met the perfect girlfriend, you thought your strike the lottery because she promised to be by your side - through all the seasons. And then, she back stabbed you with the same girl you dislike. Yet, you still allowed her to be your best friend. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You work overtime to get the promotion you’ve eyed since the first day. Lack of sleep and hunger pangs but you still managed to get the project done only to find out the much deserved promotion is offered to someone else who weren’t as much as you did. Yet, you choose to stay in the same job. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You were mistreated over and over again but you always choose to stay because you light a little hope in your heart. You truly believe that things will change and you will be appreciated. Truth is, the only change you need is within yourself. Start valuing yourself and invest as much time you would with them who took you for granted. Love, care and nurture yourself ; strive to be the better person and never allow yourself to be mistreated in any circumstances.
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