I officially said goodbye to our Golf Club membership today. Azmi doesn’t play golf anymore and I reckon my swings are better put to use whipping new recipes on Moe my Thermomix.
When I found out unexpectedly, that I was carrying Ilon in 2019, I knew I needed to reassess our lives.
Truth be told? We were happy with just two children we had between the both of us, but 10 years to our marriage, God blessed us with three more and while I thank God for HIS blessings, Ilon’s conception was a shocker and a medical decision we had to make quickly, as it was too risky for my well being to carry him full term.
Admittedly, finances was also part of our dilemma - having another young family member would mean an upgrade to a bigger car as two baby seats and two preteen girls would not be sufficient space in the car we were driving.
Plus, from past experience, being pregnant seemed to pose a hindrance to my job too - hence me keeping the pregnancy (again) away from public knowledge. So I knew I could “push” myself all the way till my surgery and then be quiet for a month or so to heal.
Quiet means = no income?
Scary thought for a freelancer like me.
But I have my mother’s grit.
The two weeks spent considering the options and lots of time on the mat gave me clarity in keeping the 7th week embryo growing in me. I would let God decide the fate of our well-being but in the meantime , what I CAN control, I would do all in my best capacity to ensure the best for baby, family and me - which includes restructuring our finances and letting go of my car, reorganise our insurance coverage and ... selling off our memberships like our Golf Club.
So we did just that - selling off what we could, restructuring our finances , our lives ... our mindset.
Then the looming MCO / pandemic happened.
No one wanted to buy the club membership because everyone was concerned about their financial state as COVID-19 did not just take away lives, but livelihoods too.
Alhamdullilah today we have made the transfer to its new owner. I’m going to miss the club facilities (the japanese restaurant is so sedap and cheap!) but at least? We still have each other.
Thanks for the memories KGNS.
