關於 what do you mean by saying that ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

Trauma informed journalism. Do we have trauma awareness training at our news outlets? How much could it help our nation’s mental health if we did? Have been thinking about this a lot the past year and it applies to how the news is covered in general. With yesterday’s news, especially, read a harrowing account of one of the student’s experience with the news outlets outside their school. Should the kids themselves be the ones having to plead for compassion? (Am not saying this solely lies on the shoulders of journalists, this article shows how it’s more complicated than that. This is for the institutions.)
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Sending love to all those affected.
To the kids, I’m sorry that you have had to experience such tragedy at such a young age. if you don’t have a grown up who knows how to guide you through this, it must feel so scary, i hope you know that it doesn’t mean that what you are feeling is not valid. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not weak. You are not making a “big deal” out of “nothing”. That’s how a lot of adults have been taught to deal with the things we’ve been through, too, so they might not know how to guide you. If that’s the case, do reach out to someone who is trained to do this. Sending you lots of love. Have included a list compiled by @thetapestryproject 🤍
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To the adults, how difficult it must be. If no one has ever held space for your trauma, which shows up in many different ways, to have to learn how to do it for yourself and for those in your charge, that must be so hard. Sending you lots of love. Do take care of yourselves, if you don’t know how, do reach out to someone who is trained to do this. 🤍
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It’s been a lot, everything has been a lot. There is a community called @safecircle.sg, they’re committed to building a more trauma informed community, this is something that all of us can learn to do. Perhaps we learn to hold space, perhaps we learn to give compassion, perhaps we learn to receive it, perhaps we learn to have difficult conversations, perhaps we learn to deal with our emotions, perhaps we allow ourselves to have emotions, perhaps we learn to validate, perhaps we learn to grief. Perhaps. 🤍

愛情36「題」❤️

讓陌生人迅速相愛的36個問題

Time to fall in love?

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《紐約時報》報導:

曼迪·萊恩·卡特隆(Mandy Len Catron)為「現代愛情」專欄寫了一篇文章《如何快速與陌生人相愛》，她在文中提到心理學家阿瑟·亞倫(Arthur Aron)等人的研究成果：兩個陌生人之間的親密關係或許可以通過彼此詢問一些特別的個人化問題而快速升溫。這36個問題分為三組，一組比一組來得尋根究底。

這個理論的核心是，共同的脆弱能促進親近感。這項研究的作者們稱：「同伴之間發展親密關係的關鍵模式在於持續、逐步升級、相互且個人化的袒露自我。」允許自己和另一個人共享脆弱可能非常困難，下面這個練習能迫使你做到這一點。

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Set I 第一組 ❤️

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

如果可以在世界上所有人中任意選擇，你想邀請誰共進晚餐？

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

你想成名嗎？想以什麼方式成名？

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

打電話之前你會先排練一下要說什麼嗎，為什麼？

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

對你來說，「完美」的一天是什麼樣的？

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

你上次自己唱起歌來是在什麼時候，給別人唱呢？

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

如果你能活到90歲，同時可以一直保持30歲時的心智或身體，你會選擇保持哪一種呢，心智還是身體？

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

你是否曾經秘密地預感到自己會以怎樣的方式死去？

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

說出三件你和你的伴侶看上去相同的特徵。

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

人生中的什麼東西最令你感激？

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

如果你能改變被撫養成人過程中的一件事，會是哪一件。

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

花四分鐘時間，儘可能詳細告訴伴侶你的人生經歷。

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

如果你明天一覺醒來就能擁有某種才能或能力，你希望那會是什麼能力呢？

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Set II 第二組 ❤️❤️

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

如果有一個水晶球可以告訴你關於自己、人生，未來乃至任何事情的真相，你會想知道嗎？

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

有沒有什麼事是你一直夢想去做而沒有去做的，為什麼沒有做？

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

你人生中最大的成就是什麼？

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

在一段友誼之中你最珍視的是什麼？

17. What is your most treasured memory?

你最寶貴的記憶是什麼？

18. What is your most terrible memory?

你最糟糕的記憶是什麼？

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

假如你知道自己在一年內就會突然死去，你會改變現在的生活方式嗎？為什麼？

20. What does friendship mean to you?

友誼對於你來說意味着什麼？

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

愛與情感在你生活中扮演着什麼樣的角色？

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

和你的伴侶輪流說出心目中對方的一個好品質，每人說五條。

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

你的家人之間關係是否親密而溫暖，你覺得自己的童年比其他人更快樂嗎？

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

你和母親之間的關係是怎樣的？

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Set III 第三組 ❤️❤️❤️

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “

每人用「我們」造三個句子，並含有實際情況，比如「我們倆在屋子裡，感覺……」

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “

補完這個句子：「我希望和某人在一起，分享……」

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

如果你想和對方成為親近的朋友，請告訴對方有什麼重要的事情是他或她需要知道的。

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

告訴對方你喜歡他或她身上的什麼東西，要非常誠實，說些你不會對萍水之交說的東西。

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

和對方分享生命中那些尷尬的時刻。

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

你上次在別人面前哭是什麼時候？自己哭呢？

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

告訴對方，你已經喜歡上了他或她身上的什麼品質。

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

你覺得什麼東西是嚴肅到不能開玩笑的，假如有的話。

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

如果你今晚就將死去，而且沒有機會同任何人聯絡，你會因為之前沒有對別人說什麼話而感到遺憾，你為什麼到現在都沒有對他們說這些話呢？

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

假設你擁有的全部東西都在你的房子里，現在房子着了火，救出家人和寵物之後，你還有機會安全地衝進去最後一次，取出最後一件東西，你會拿什麼，為什麼？

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

你的家人中，誰去世了會令你最難過，為什麼？

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

說出一件你的個人問題，問對方如果遇到此事要如何解決。另外，也要讓對方如實告訴你，在他或她眼中，你對於這個問題的感受是怎樣的。

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❤️ 看完這些問題後，會想到哪一部愛情片? ❤️

Tag someone who needs these questions~

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Apa yang tak kena dengan gambar ini?

Ada yang jawab-tudung tu palsu, ok betul. Sebab aku yang edit cover rambut sebab aurat, abaikan tudung tu, soalan aku: apa yang tak kena dengan gambar ini?

“Bibir tak warna merah habis…”,

Salah!

“Mata juling!”

Salah!

“Penataan cahaya yang salah”

Salah jugak!

“if i’m not mistaken, bulu mata sebelah kiri perempuan macam ada yang tak kena”

Salah!

“Pondan, pasti betul! Ha ha”

Salah!

"Bapok!"

Salah! Salah! salah!

Sebenarnya, akupun salah waktu meneka “What’s wrong with this photo?”

Alkisahnya begini, satu malam kat sebuah hotel, jam lebih kurang jam 3 pagi, aku tiba-tiba terjaga sedang TV masih terpasang.

Di kaca TV terlihat debat antara Atheist dan Paderi Kristian dalam rancangan StarTalk yang di Hostkan oleh Neil deGrasse Tyson seorang pakar kajian sains Amarika, manakala debat pula antara Evolutionary biologist Richard Dawkins mewakili puak Atheist(orang yang tidak percaya tuhan) bersama dengan Father Martin from Catholic Church mewakili puak yang percaya kepada Tuhan.

Tajuk debat mereka adalah: “Science and religion”

“panas…”

Panas sebab aku lupa maximakan air cond waktu tidur tadi, so up air cond dan sambung menontong debat aetheist dan paderi.

Waktu tu dah hujung rancangan, sekali paderi tu cakap:

"But I often say this with the greatest respect for Professor Dawkins, I really do hope that when you comes to the end of your life and you meets and I believe this and you meets God, I hope you will be pleasantly surprised. I really do"

(tapi kan, saya sering fikirkan ini, yang saya hormati Profesor Dawkins, saya benar-benar berharap bahawa apabila tiba saat akhir hidup anda, saya sangat percaya, anda akan bertemu Tuhan, Saya pasti anda akan sangat terkejut. Pasti.)

Atheist: I would ask God back, why did you create a world that was so convincing of your absence? (saya akan tanya tuhan balik, kenapa cipta dunia terlalu sempurna sehingga seolah olah Tuhan tidak wujud?)

Paderi : That is faith! (itulah iman!)

Atheist: Wow!

Aku yang sedang menonton teringat akan ayat suci Al quran surah Al Mulk yang menceritakan kesempurnaan ciptaan Allah tentang alam ini.

“Dia lah yang telah mengaturkan kejadian tujuh petala langit yang berlapis-lapis; engkau tidak dapat melihat pada ciptaan Allah Yang Maha Pemurah itu sebarang keadaan yang tidak seimbang dan tidak munasabah; (jika engkau ragu-ragu) maka ulangilah pandangan - (mu) - dapatkah engkau melihat sebarang kecacatan?

Kemudian ulangilah pandangan (mu) berkali-kali, nescaya pandanganmu itu akan berbalik kepadamu dengan hampa (daripada melihat sebarang kecacatan ciptaan Allah), sedang ia pula berkeadaan lemah lesu (kerana habis tenaga dengan sia-sia)"

Surah Al Mulk ayat 3 dan 4.”

Dari ayat ini, jelas Allah bagitahu betapa sempurnanya alam ciptaan-Nya sehingga dari debat tadi, orang atheist boleh anggap dunia ini terjadi dengan sendiri bila pandang segala dalam dunia ini logic dengan sains dan formulanya, itulah kuasa Allah yang mencipta dengan sempurna.

Dalam forum lain, aku pernah dengar, segala teori dan formula fizik serta sains dalam dunia ini, telah wujud sebelum Big Bang. Deep sungguh!

Balik pada gambar di atas, itu bukan salah make up, atau gambar pondan,

Sebenarnya gambar itu adalah lukisan, dilukis dengan tangan manusia selama 70 jam, tapi rata rata orang bila ditanya tak akan sangka lukisan sebegitu sempurna dilukis oleh manusia, mereka akan cakap, ini mesti guna kamere, akupun sama, tapi cuba check laman web ini, airbrushworkshops.com korang akan terkejut!

Begitulah yang berlaku pada orang yang tidak mengaku bahawa alam ini dijadikan Tuhan sebab perfect sangat, tapi itulah, nak buktikan alam ini dijadikan tuhan guna sains atau klik laman web memang tak boleh, kerana itulah Iman.

Iman=Percaya pada yang ghaib. Seolahnya percaya kat aku tanpa klik website tu, begitulah ‘iman’ tentang gambar ini adalah lukisan bukan foto.

Hujung debat aman antara paderi dan Atheist itu, si Atheist menekankan pembuktian melalui sains akan kewujudan Tuhan. Lalu jawab paderi:

“Buktikan juga melalui sains, akan bagaimana alam ini bermula, what something that begins us?”

Jawab si atheist: By the way, I don't presume that everything has to have a cause. That's just how the world has manifested thus far.

Paderi: But isn't that a scientific sort of cause and effect? Isn't that one of the bases of science, cause and effect?

Atheist : It's gotten us very far, but I don't.

Paderi : I mean, when you do an experiment, don't you look at cause and effect?

Atheist: Yes. But what I'm saying is, I don't then say the whole universe has to follow this rule. I'm open enough to other possibilities that maybe the universe always was.

Paderi: But see, I, in that case am probably being more logical and scientific. I would say that the human mind, as we understand it, presumes causes and effects, and at some point you have to have this kind of uncaused cause because it doesn't make sense to have this infinite regress. And by that, I say that's God.

Atheist: A quote that I utter that now I've seen on T-shirts, but I'm happy to repeat it here, is that the universe is under no obligation to make sense to us.

Paderi: Neither is God.

Atheist: Woha! I think we've got to wrap it up there.

End.

Kesimpulannya, apabila di desak oleh paderi tentang bukti kewujudan permulaan cakerawala, maka Aethis bersetuju bahawa dalam dunia sains hari ini, berkenaan ilmu cakerwala, bukan menjadi kewajipan untuk menjawab semua persoalan, mungkin betul alam cakerewala ini memang diluar akal manusia, maka jawab paderi bersahaja, begitulah juga Tuhan. Di luar akal manusia.

Sekian.

Ps: Jangan pulak korang tuduh aku murtad sebab sokong paderi dalam rancangan Star Talk tu, anggap macam kes Abu Bakar r.a yang mana sewaktu Rom berperang dengan Parsi (agama Majusi) maka Abu Bakar menyokong Rom sebab mereka adalah ahli kitab.

Woha!

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Please understand that by watching Dan’s videos or enrolling in his programs does not mean you’ll get results close to what he’s been able to do (or do anything for that matter).

He’s been in business for over 20 years and his results are not typical.

Most people who watch his videos or enroll in his programs get the “how to” but never take action with the information. Dan is only sharing what has worked for him and his students.

Your results are dependent on many factors… including but not limited to your ability to work hard, commit yourself, and do whatever it takes.

Entering any business is going to involve a level of risk as well as massive commitment and action. If you're not willing to accept that, please DO NOT WATCH DAN’S VIDEOS OR SIGN UP FOR ONE OF HIS PROGRAMS.

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