【義診的啟示】
「義診」
像是免費的試喝飲料,想拿就拿。
還是像是有人請客吃飯,佔到就有?
粥棚畢竟救不了全部的人,
但透過這個過程,
是否可以窺探到一點自己的內在?
按下訊息鍵詢問義診的那一刻,
究竟是因為真有問題還是貪小便宜?
若不困擾又怎麼會問,而金錢與靈魂,
就如同金錢與健康的關係,又熟輕熟重?
有人根本就不知道要問什麼,
只是看到免費的就來問一問。
也有人打了很多很多問題以後,
在我說「抱歉名額已滿」的那一刻,
決定忽略她所有的問題。
當然,選擇權在你們。
想不想成長、想不想跳脫輪迴,
願不願意清創、能不能面對自己,
那一向是你們,而不是我的事。
好,你們的部份,先到這裡。
接下來,來談我的部份。
上週我與友人暢談對各自天職的理念,
談到半夜三更。
他有很祟高的理想,想成為最厲害的醫生,
拯救很多的人,並把他的理念宣揚出去。
他說,我是身體的醫生,只負責這一世,
而妳是靈魂的醫生,妳有這個天賦,
是大師級的人物,那就更不應該浪費,
應該多想想,怎樣能幫助更多的人。
掛掉電話後,他的一句話,
一直縈繞在我的心頭:
「妳要想,妳是一個師父,
妳怎麼做,妳的學生就怎麼做。」
我靜下心來,細細思量。
當晚,出現了第一個「義診」的訊息。
隔日,我與學生遊歷至「返校」拍攝地。
志成商工的對面,是一塊廢棄老舊的醫院,
時代更迭,裡面卻仍有許多徘迴不去的亡靈,
一位學生馬上不舒服了起來。
我卻知道,這是我需要「義診」的第一群對象。
我站在那裡,超渡了對面的亡靈們。
才剛結束,志成商工的校門口來了一個老婦人,
雖然校門口高高掛著『私人用地禁止入內』 的牌子,這位老婦人卻熟門熟路地進去了。
入內詢問那位老婦人能不能參觀,
她正在裡面整理她的鞋子,
聽到我們的詢問,竟頭也不抬地答應了。
帶著探索又期待的心情進入這個學校,
在地板的夾縫中發現許多新生的枝枒,
裡面的看門狗,從狂吠變成捨不得我們離開,
隨著能量的轉換,身邊的一切也在轉換中,
當我們準備離開那個學校的時候,
天空竟罕見地同時出現太陽、彩虹、與月亮。
我們興奮地在裡面轉圈圈,
那是連日大雨後的彩虹,
原本烏陰的天空出現了太陽與月亮,
天象正毫不保留地共時著我們的訊息。
回台北後,我決定開義診,這才發現,
我從來不知道自己這麼不相信人。
「會不會有剛調整完的人,
看到義診,要求退費呢?」
「會不會有人排不到不高興,
就開始給負評呢?」
「會不會有人因此,
就不願意付費調整了呢?」
公佈義診訊息後,過多的訊息量,
讓我無法一一消化,我又擔心了。
「會不會有人誤會我是為了行銷的目的,
才開這個義診的訊息?」
「會不會他們誤會我有回覆,就代表有名額呢?」
我一邊回覆著雪片般進來的訊息,
一邊開始感受到內在的擔心。
在義診的過程中,我從不擔心能量過不去,
我反而在擔心這些人性層面的問題。
這些都是我從來沒發現過的修煉、心念,
我看到了許多懷疑。
即便這些問題,都沒有發生。
詢問義診的訊息,
很快掩蓋了原來就已經很多的訊息量。
我逼自己盡量在最短的時間內,
把承諾的名額服務完,甚至加開名額。
在這個過程中,我非常開心,
就好像宇宙丟給了我一筆錢,
然後說:「去吧,去決定妳要分配給誰。」
我拿著這筆「能量」的錢,
揮灑給那些我認為值得的人。
有人藉由義診踏上內在成長的道路,
開始夫妻雙修。
有的人透過這次的機會,
看到自己一直在逃避的情傷,
並面對那個一直很渴求愛的自己。
有的人透過這次機會,解開了前世的封印,
平衡、婚姻、事業、玩樂、小孩的能量,
讓她老公嚐到了結婚四年來第一頓親手做的飯菜。
有人調整了親人的健康、
有人取回了困住的能量、
也有人避開了輪迴的詛咒…。
我親手解開一個又一個的結,
深深感受到「施比受、更有福」。
然後,就突然了收到學生傳來的訊息。
「我跟妳說,我真的很愛妳。
我常常在觀察妳,妳這個師父,
總是讓我一次又一次更敬重妳。
我今天看到妳發文就覺得好感動,
我真是三百生有幸,能跟在妳身邊學習。
我真的很驕傲妳是我的師父。」
還有什麼,能比這更開心的呢?
同一日,學生整理從埃及寄回來給她的明信片,
上面繪著Isis女神、哈索爾女神,跟荷魯斯。
她說:「傳說哈索爾女神曾化身為無花果樹,
並把果實送給地獄的死者,
讓這我想到妳發在粉專上的義診。」
更酷的事還在後面。
當天晚上,我義診完一位個案,
結束後,她開心地與我閒聊,
突然拍了她家的盆栽給我看。
那是一顆無花果樹。
彷彿呼應著前面哈索爾女神化身為無花果樹,
把果實送給地獄死者的訊息,
如此共時,令我震驚………
她繼續熱情地說道:
「我不只有無花果樹,
前陣子還有人真的給我果實吃耶!
很好吃哦!一定要試試!
不然,我收成之後寄給您,
他有股清甜的口感,很好吃哦~」
我的嘴角不禁微微上揚,
將能量送回來給我的你們,
才是哈索爾女神的化身吧!
隨著義診的結束,腦中響起的,
是德蕾莎修女的「不管怎樣」。
不管怎樣,提醒自己,
即便在最壞的時節,
也要做個最好的人。
不管怎樣。
--不管怎樣 Aanyway--
If you are honest and frank,
people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
即使你是誠實的和率直的,
人們可能還是會欺騙你。
不管怎樣,你還是要誠實和率直
People are often unreasonable,
illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
人們經常是不講道理的、
沒有邏輯的和以自我為中心的,
不管怎樣,你要原諒他們。
If you are kind,
people may accuse you of selfish,
ulterior motives;Be kind anyway.
即使你是友善的,
人們可能還是會說你自私和動機不良,
不管怎樣,你還是要友善。
If you are successful,
you will win some false friends
and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
當你功成名就,
你會有一些虛假的朋友,
和一些真實的敵人
不管怎樣,你還是要取得成功。
What you spend years building,
Someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
你多年來營造的東西,
有人在一夜之間把它摧毀,
不管怎樣,你還是要去營造。
If you find serenity and happiness,
they may be jealous;Be happy anyway.
如果你找到了平靜和幸福,
他們可能會嫉妒你,
不管怎樣,你還是要快樂。
The good you do today,
people will often forget tomorrow;
Be good anyway.
你今天做的善事,人們往往明天就會忘記,
不管怎樣,你還是要做善事
Give the world the best you have,
And it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you have anyway.
即使把你最好的東西給了這個世界,
也許這些東西永遠都不夠,
不管怎樣,把你最好的東西給這個世界。
You see, in the final analysis,
it is between you and God;
It is never between you and them anyway.
你看,說到底,它是你和上帝之間的事,
而決不是你和他人之間的事。
- from 德蕾莎修女(Mother Teresa)
“樹葉有愛時,便化成花朵。花朵敬拜,
結出果實。埋在地下的樹根使樹枝產生果實,
卻並不要求什麼報酬”-泰戈爾
ps.照片為2020/8/28攝於廢棄的志成商工,
「返校」時,天空出現奇景,
太陽月亮與彩虹同時出現,
鼓舞著我們的未來。☀️🌈💖🌙
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My sister, Michelle-Ann Iking's 3% chance of conceiving naturally was a success! Here's her story:
(My apologies as I've been overwhelmed with personal matters. I've only managed to get to my desk. So finally got around posting this).
This is the story behind my sister's pregnancy struggle and how she shared her journey over her Facebook page.
Because some may have not caught her LIVE session chat with me (https://www.facebook.com/daphneiking/videos/687743128744960/) , or read her lengthy post (as it's a private page);
she's allowed me to copy and paste it over my wall, in case you need to know more about her thought process on how AND why she focused on the 3% success probability. Read on.
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Posted 10th May 2020.
FB Credit: Michelle-Ann Iking
A week ago today I celebrated becoming a mother to our second, long awaited child.
Please forgive this mother's LONG (self-indulgent) post, journalling what this significant milestone has meant for her personally, for her own fallible memory's sake as well as maybe to share one day with her son.
If all you were wondering was whether I had delivered and if mum and bub are OK, please be assured the whole KkLM family are thriving tremendously, and continue scrolling right along your Newsfeed 😁.
OUR 3% MIRACLE
All babies are miracles... and none more so than our precious Kiaen Aaryan (pronounced KEY-n AR-yen), whose name derives from Sanskrit origins meaning:
Grace of God
Spiritual
Kind
Benevolent
...words espousing the gratitude Kishore and I feel for Kiaen's arrival as our "3% miracle".
He was conceived, naturally, after 3 years of Kishore and I hoping, praying and 'endeavoring'... and only couples for whom the objective switches from pure recreation to (elusive) procreation will understand how this is less fun than it sounds ...
3 years during which time we had consensus from 3 different doctors that we, particularly I (with my advancing age etc etc) had only a 3% chance of natural conception and that our best hope for a sibling for our firstborn, Lara Anoushka, was via IVF.
Lara herself was an 'intervention baby', being one of the 20% of babies successfully conceived through the less intrusive IUI process, after a year and a half of trying naturally and already being told then my age was a debilitating factor.
We had tried another round of IUI for her sibling in 2017 when Lara was a year old. And that time we fell into the ranks of the 80% of would-be parents for whom it would be an exercise in futility... who would go home, comfort each other as best they could, while individually masking their own personal disappointment... hoping for the best, 'the next time around'...
So the improbability ratio of 97% against natural conception of our second baby, as concurred by the combined opinion of 3 medical professionals, was a very real, very daunting figure for us to have to mentally deal with.
Deep, DEEP, down in my heart however, though I had many a day of doubt... I kept a core kernel of faith that somehow, I would again experience the privilege of pregnancy, and again, have a chance at childbirth.
And so, the optimist in me would tell myself, "Well, there have to be people who fall in the 3% bucket... why shouldn't WE be part of the 3%?"
Those who know me well, understand my belief in the Law of Attraction, the philosophy of focusing your mind only on what you want to attract, not on what you don't want, and so even as Kishore and I prepared to go into significant personal debt to attempt IVF in the 2nd half of 2019, I marshalled a last ditch effort to hone in on that 3% chance of natural conception... through research coming across fertility supplements that I ordered from the US and sent to a friend in Singapore to redirect to me because the supplier would not deliver to Malaysia.
I made us as a couple take the supplements in the 3 month 'priming period' in the lead up to the IVF procedure - preconditioning our bodies for optimum results, if you will.
At the same time, I had invested in a sophisticated fertility monitor, with probes and digital sensors for daily tracking of saliva and other unmentionable fluid samples, designed to pinpoint with chemical accuracy my state of fertility on any given day.
(UPDATE: For those interested - I obtained the supplements and Ovacue Fertility Monitor from https://www.fairhavenhealth.com/. Though I had my supplies delivered to a friend in Singapore, and redirected to me here since the US site does not deliver to Malaysia, there are local distributors for these products, you will just have to research the trustworthiness of the vendors yourself...)
I had set an intention - in the 3 months of pre-IVF priming, I would consume what seemed like a pharmacy's worth of supplements, and track fertility religiously... in hopes that somehow, within the 3 month priming period, we would conceive naturally and potentially save ourselves a down payment on a new property... and this was just a projection on financial costs of IVF, not even considering the physical, emotional and mental toll it involves, with no guarantee of a baby at the end of it all...
It was a continuation of an intention embedded even with my first pregnancy, where all the big ticket baby items were consciously purchased for use by a future sibling, in gender neutral colours, in hopes that sibling would be a brother "for a balanced pair", though of course any healthy child would be a welcome blessing.
It was a very conscious determination to always skew my thoughts in service of what the end objective was. For example, when 3+year old Lara would innocently express impatience at not yet having a sibling, at one point suggesting that since we were "taking too long to give her a baby brother/sister", perhaps we should just "go buy a baby from a shop", instead of getting defensive or berating the baby that she herself was, we enlisted Lara's help to pray for her sibling... so in any place of worship, or sacred ground of any kind that we passed thereon, Lara would stop, close her eyes, bow her small head and place her tiny hands together in prayer, reciting earnestly, "Please God, please give me a baby brother or baby sister."
After months and months of watching Lara do this, in the constancy of her childlike chant, Kishore started feeling the pressure of possibly disappointing Lara if her prayer was not answered. Whereas for me, Lara's recitation of her simple wish became like a strengthening mantra, our collective intention imbued with greater power with each repetition, and the goal of a sibling kept very much in the forefront of our minds (hence our calling Lara our 'project manager' in this endeavour).
And somehow in the 2nd month of that 3 month period, a positive + sign appeared on one of the home pregnancy tests I had grown accustomed to taking - my version of the lottery tickets others keep buying in hopes of hitting the jackpot, with all the cyclical anticipation and more often than not, disappointment, that entails...
This time however I was not disappointed.
With God's Grace, (hence 'Kiaen', a variation of 'Kiaan' which means 'Grace of God'), my focus on our joining the ranks of the 3% had materialised.
It seems poetic then, that Kiaen chose to make his appearance on the 3rd May, ironically the same date that his paternal great-grandfather departed this world for the next... such that in the combined words of Kishore and his father Kai Vello Suppiah,
"The 1st generation Suppiah left on 3rd May and the 4th generation Suppiah arrived on 3rd May after 41yrs...
One leaves, another comes, the legacy lives on..."
***
KIAEN AARYAN SUPPIAH'S BIRTH STORY
On Sunday 3rd May, I was 40 weeks and 5 days pregnant.
The baby was, in my mind, very UN-fashionably late past his due date of 29th April, so as much as I had willed and 'manifested' the privilege of pregnancy, to say I was keen to be done with it all was an understatement.
In the weeks leading to up to my full term, I had experienced increasingly intense Braxton-Hicks 'practice contractions' - annoying for me for the discomfort involved, stressful for Kishore who was on tenterhooks with the false alarms, on constant alert for when we would actually need to leave home for the hospital.
Having become a Hypnobirthing student and advocate from my first pregnancy with Lara, and thus being equipped with
(1) a lack of fear about childbirth in general and
(2) a basic understanding of how all the sensations I would experience fit into the big picture of my body bringing our baby closer to us,
I was less stressed - content to wait for the baby to be "fully cooked" and come out whenever he was ready... though I wouldn't have minded at all if the cooking time ended sooner, rather than later.
With Lara, I had been somewhat 'forced' into an induced labour, even though she was not yet due, and that had resulted in a 5 DAY LABOUR, a Birth Story for another post, so I was not inclined to chemically induce labour, even though I was assured that for second time mothers, it would be 'much faster and easier'...
That morning, I had a hunch *maybe* that day was the day, because in contrast to previous weeks' sensations of tightening, pressure and even spasms that were concentrated in the front of my abdomen and occasionally shot through my sides and legs, I felt period - like cramping in my lower back which I had not felt before throughout the pregnancy.
It was about 8am in the morning then, and my 'surges' were still relatively mild ('surges' being Hypnobirthing - speak for 'contractions', designed to frame them with the more positive connotations needed to counteract common language in which childbirth is presented as something that is unequivocally painful and traumatic, instead of the miraculous, powerful and natural phenomenon it actually is).
I recall (masochistically?) entertaining the thought of opting NOT to have an epidural JUST TO SEE WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE...
I figured this would be the last time I would be pregnant and so it would be my 'last chance' to experience 'drug free labour' which, apart from the health benefits for baby and mother, might be *interesting* in a way that people who are curious about what getting a tattoo and skydiving and bungee jumping are like, might find these *interesting*...even knowing there will be pain and risk involved...
Since I have tried tattoos and skydiving (unfortunately not being able to squeeze in bungee-jumping while my life was purely my own to risk at no dependents' possible detriment) a similar curiousity about a no-epidural labour was on my mind...
In the absence of other signs of the onset of labour (like 'bloody show' or my waters breaking), I wanted to wait until the surges were coming every few minutes before we actually left the house for the hospital, not wanting to be one of those couples who rushed in too early and had interminable waits for the next stage in unfamiliar, clinical surroundings and/or were made to go home in an anti-climatic manner.
I was even calm enough through my surges to have the presence of mind to wash and blowdry my hair, knowing if I did deliver soon I would not be allowed this luxury for a while.
Around 9am I asked Kishore to prep for Lara and himself to be dressed and breakfasted so we could head to hospital soon, while I sent messages to family members on both sides informing them 'today might be the day.'
My mother, who had briefly served as a midwife before going back into general nursing and then becoming a nursing tutor, prophetically stated that if what I was experiencing was true labour, "the baby would be out by noon".
The pace in which my surges grew closer together was surprisingly quicker than I expected; and while I asked Lara to "Hurry up with breakfast" with only a tad more urgency than we normally tell her to do, little Missy being prone to dilly-dallying at meals, I probably freaked Kishore out when about 930am onwards, I had to instinctively get on my hands and knees a couple of times, eyes closed, trying to practice the Hypnobirthing breathing techniques I had revised to help along the process of my body birthing our child into the world.
I recall him saying a bit frantically as I knelt at our front door, doubled over as he waited for Lara to complete something or other, "Lara hurry up! Can't you see Mama is in so much pain and you are taking your own sweet time??!!"
SIDETRACK: Just the night before, Lara and I had watched a TV show in which a woman gave birth with the usual histrionics accompanying pop culture depictions of labour.
Lara watched the scene, transfixed.
I told her, simply and matter-of-factly, "That's what Mama has to do to get baby brother out Lara, and that's what I had to do for you also."
In most of interactions with my daughter, I have sought to equip her to face life's situations with calmness, truthful common sense, and ideally a minimum of drama.
Those who know the dramatic diva that Lara can be will know that this is a work-in-progress, but her response to me that night showed me some of my 'teachings' were sinking in:
She looked at me unfazed, "But Mama," she said. "You won't cry and scream like that lady, right? You will be BRAVE and stay calm, right?"
#nopressure.
So as we prepped to leave for the hospital I did indeed attempt to be that role model of calm for her, asking her only for her help in keeping very quiet,
"Because Mama needs to focus on bringing baby brother out and she needs quiet to concentrate...".
As we left the house at 10.11am, I texted Kishore's sister Geetha to please prep to pick up Lara from the hospital, and was grateful Kishore had the foresight to ask our gynae to prepare a letter for Geetha to show any police roadblocks between my in-laws' home in Subang Jaya and the hospital in Bangsar, this all happening under the Movement Control Order (MCO).
To Lara's credit, in the journey over to the hospital, she - probably sensing the gravity of the situation, sat very quietly in her seat at the back, and the silence was punctuated only by my occasional deep intakes of breath and some variation of my Ohmmm-like moans when the sensations were at their height.
By the time we got to Pantai Hospital at around 10.30am, my surges were strong enough I requested a wheelchair to assist me in getting to the labour ward, as I did not trust my own legs to support me... and Kishore would have to wait until Geetha had arrived to take Lara back to my in-laws' house before he himself could go up.
I slumped in the wheelchair and was wheeled up to the labour room with my eyes closed the whole time, trying to handle my surges.
I didn't even look up to see the attendant who pushed me... but did make the effort to thank him sincerely when he handed me over, with what seemed like a palpable sense of relief on his part, to the labour ward nurses.
The nurse attending me at Pantai was calm, steady and efficient. I answered some questions and changed into my labour gown while waiting for Kishore to come up, all the while managing the increasingly intense surges with my rusty Hypnobirthing breathing techniques.
By the time Kishore joined me at around 11am (I know these timings based on the timestamps of the 'WhatsApp live feed' of messages Kishore sent to his family), I was asking the nurse on duty, "How soon can I get an epidural??" thinking what crazy woman thought she could do this without drugs???!!!
The nurse checked my cervix dilation, I saw her bloodied glove indicating my mucous plug had dislodged, and she told me, "Well you are already at 7cm (which, for the uninitiated, is 70% of the way to the 10cm dilation needed for birthing), you are really doing well, if you made it this far without any drugs, if can you try and manage without it... I suspect within 2 hours or less you will deliver your baby and since it will take about that time for the anaesthesiologist to be called, epidural to be administered and kick in... it might all be for nothing... but of course the decision is completely up to you... "
So there I was, super torn, should I risk the sensations becoming worse... or risk the epidural becoming a waste?? And of course I was trying to decide this as my labour surges were coming at me stronger and stronger...
I was in such a dilemma...because as a 'recovering approval junkie' there was also a silly element of approval-seeking involved, ("The nurse thinks I can do this without drugs... maybe I CAN do this without drugs... Yay me!") mixed with that element of curiosity I mentioned earlier ("What if I actually CAN do this without drugs... plenty of other women have done it all over the world since time immemorial.. no big deal, how bad can it be...??") so then I thought I would use the financial aspect to be the 'tiebreaker' in my decision making...
I asked the nurse how much an epidural would cost and when she replied "Around MYR1.5k", I still remember Kishore's incredulous face as I asked the question, i.e."Seriously babe, you are gonna think about money right now? If you need the epidural TAKE IT, don't worry about the money!!!"... and while we are not rich by any stretch of the imagination, thankfully RM1.5k is not a quantum that made me swing towards a decision to "better save the money"...
So in the end, I guess my curiosity won out, and I turned down the epidural "just to see what it would be like and if I had it in me" (in addition of course to avoiding the side effects of any drugs introduced into my and the baby's body).
My labour occuring in the time of coronavirus, it was protocol for me to have a COVID19 test done, so the medical staff could apply the necessary precautions. I had heard from a friend Sharon Ruba that the test procedure was uncomfortable, so when the nurse came with the test kit as I was starting another surge, I asked, "Please can I just finish this surge before I do the test?" as I really didn't think I could multitask tackling multiple uncomfortable sensations in one go.
The COVID19 test involved what felt like a looong, skinny cotton bud being inserted into one nostril... I definitely felt more than a tickle as it went in and up, being told to take deep breaths by the nurse. Then she asked me to "Try to swallow" and I felt it go into my nasal cavities where I didn't think anything could go any further, but was proven wrong when she asked me to swallow again and the swab was probed even deeper. Then she warned me there would be some slight discomfort as she prepared to collect a sample... but at that point all I could think about was:
(i) I really don't have much of a choice
(ii) please let this be over before my next surge kicks in
(iii) if all the people breaking the MCO rules knew what it feels like to do this test maybe they won't put themselves at risk of the need to perform one...
In full disclosure as I was transferred into the actual delivery room at some point after 11am, another nurse offered me 'laughing gas' to ostensibly take some of the edge off... I took the self-operated breathing nozzle passed to me but don't recall it making any difference to my sensations..so didn't use it much as it seemed pretty pointless.
I recall some measure of relief when I heard my gynae Dr. Paul entering the room, greeting Kishore and me, and telling us it was going well and it wouldn't be long now and he would see us again shortly.
From my previous labour with Lara I knew the midwives pretty much take you 90% of the way through the labour and when the Dr is called in you are really at the home stretch, so was very relieved to hear his voice though knowing he would leave and come back later meant it wasn't quite over yet.
I do remember realising when I had crossed the Thinning and Opening Phase of labour to the Birthing Phase, by the change in sensations... it is still amazing to me that as the Hypnobirthing book mentioned, having this knowledge I was instinctively able to switch breathing techniques for the next stage of labour .
Was my opting against epidural the right choice for me?
Overall? Yes.
Don't get me wrong.
I *almost* regretted the decision several times during active labour... especially when I felt my body being taken over by an overwhelming compulsion to push that did not seem conscious and was accompanied by involuntary gutteral moans where I literally just thought to myself, "I surrender, God do with me what you will..." (super dramatic I know but VERY real at the time...).
I think I experienced 3-4 such natural explusive reflexes (?), rhythmically pushing the baby down the birth path, one of which was accompanied by what felt like a swoosh of water coming out of a hose with a diameter the size of a golf ball... this was when I realised my water had finally broken...
The nurses kept instructing me to do different things, to keep breathing, to move to my side, then to move to the middle, to raise my feet... and when I didn't comply, Kishore (who was with me throughout both my labours) tried to help them by repeating the instructions prefaced with "Sayang..." but I basically ignored all the intructions because I felt I had no capacity to direct any part of my body to do anything and someone else would have to physically manoeuvre that body part themselves.
When I heard Dr. Paul's voice again and the flurry of commotion surrounding his presence, I knew the time was close... and when I heard the nurse say to Kishore, "Sir, these are your gloves, for when you cut the baby's cord", it was music to my ears...
I'm very, VERY grateful Kiaen slid out after maybe the 4th of those involuntary pushes... the wave of RELIEF when he came out so quickly... it still boggles my mind that my mother was essentially right and as his birth time was 12.02pm, it was *only* about 1.5 hours between our arrival at the hospital and his arrival into the world.
Kiaen was placed on my chest for skin to skin bonding and remained there for a considerable time.
For our short stay in the hospital he would be with us in my maternity ward number C327... another trivially serendipitous sign for me because he was born on the 3rd (May) and our wedding anniversary is 27th (July).
I was discharged the following day 4th May at about 5.30pm, after I got an all clear on COVID19 and a paediatric surgeon did a small procedure on Kiaen to address a tongue-tie that would affect his breastfeeding latch... making the entire duration of our stay about 31 hours.
I have taken the time and effort to record all this down so that whenever life's challenges threaten to get me down I can remind myself, "Ignore the 97% failure probability, focus on the 3% success probability".
Also that the human condition is miraculous and it is such a privilege to experience it.
To our son Kiaen Aaryan, thank you for coming into our lives and choosing us as your parents.
Even though Papa and I are both zombies trying to settle into a night time feeding routine with you, I look forward to spending not only all future Mother's Days, but every day, with you and your Akka...
And last but not least, to my husband Kishore...without whom none of this would be possible - we did it sayang, I love you ❤️
Photo credit: Stayhome session with Samantha Yong Photography (http://samanthayong.com/)
true self and false self 在 IELTS Fighter - Chiến binh IELTS Facebook 的最佳解答
⛔ LUYỆN READING NÀO ⛔
THE IMPORTANCE OF CHILDREN'S PLAY
Brick by brick, six-year-old Alice is building a magical kingdom. Imagining fairy-tale turrets and fire-breathing dragons, wicked witches and gallant heroes, she's creating an enchanting world. Although she isn't aware of it, this fantasy is helping her take her first steps towards her capacity for creativity and so it will have important repercussions in her adult life.
Minutes later, Alice has abandoned the kingdom in favour of playing schools with her younger brother. When she bosses him around as his 'teacher', she's practising how to regulate her emotions through pretence. Later on, when they tire of this and settle down with a board game, she's learning about the need to follow rules and take turns with a partner.
'Play in all its rich variety is one of the highest achievements of the human species,' says Dr David Whitebread from the Faculty of Education at the University of Cambridge, UK. 'It underpins how we develop as intellectual, problem-solving adults and is crucial to our success as a highly adaptable species.'
Recognising the importance of play is not new: over two millennia ago, the Greek philosopher Plato extolled its virtues as a means of developing skills for adult life, and ideas about play-based learning have been developing since the 19th century.
But we live in changing times, and Whitebread is mindful of a worldwide decline in play, pointing out that over half the people in the world now live in cities. 'The opportunities for free play, which I experienced almost every day of my childhood, are becoming increasingly scarce,' he says. Outdoor play is curtailed by perceptions of risk to do with traffic, as well as parents' increased wish to protect their children from being the victims of crime, and by the emphasis on 'earlier is better' which is leading to greater competition in academic learning and schools.
International bodies like the United Nations and the European Union have begun to develop policies concerned with children's right to play, and to consider implications for leisure facilities and educational programmes. But what they often lack is the evidence to base policies on.
'The type of play we are interested in is child-initiated, spontaneous and unpredictable- but, as soon as you ask a five-year-old "to play", then you as the researcher have intervened,' explains Dr Sara Baker. 'And we want to know what the long-term impact of play is. It's a real challenge.'
Dr Jenny Gibson agrees, pointing out that although some of the steps in the puzzle of how and why play is important have been looked at, there is very little data on the impact it has on the child's later life.
Now, thanks to the university's new Centre for Research on Play in Education, Development and Learning (PEDAL), Whitebread, Baker, Gibson and a team of researchers hope to provide evidence on the role played by play in how a child develops.
'A strong possibility is that play supports the early development of children's self-control,' explains Baker. 'This is our ability to develop awareness of our own thinking processes - it influences how effectively we go about undertaking challenging activities.'
In a study carried out by Baker with toddlers and young pre-schoolers, she found that children with greater self-control solved problems more quickly when exploring an unfamiliar set-up requiring scientific reasoning. 'This sort of evidence makes us think that giving children the chance to play will make them more successful problem-solvers in the long run.'
If playful experiences do facilitate this aspect of development, say the researchers, it could be extremely significant for educational practices, because the ability to self-regulate has been shown to be a key predictor of academic performance.
Gibson adds: 'Playful behaviour is also an important indicator of healthy social and emotional development. In my previous research, I investigated how observing children at play can�give us important clues about their well-being and can even be useful in the diagnosis of neurodevelopmental disorders like autism.'
Whitebread's recent research has involved developing a play-based approach to supporting children's writing. 'Many primary school children find writing difficult, but we showed in a previous study that a playful stimulus was far more effective than an instructional one.' Children wrote longer and better-structured stories when they first played with dolls representing characters in the story. In the latest study, children first created their story with Lego*, with similar results. 'Many teachers commented that they had always previously had children saying they didn't know what to write about. With the Lego building, however, not a single child said this through the whole year of the project.'
Whitebread, who directs PEDAL, trained as a primary school teacher in the early 1970s, when, as he describes, 'the teaching of young children was largely a quiet backwater, untroubled by any serious intellectual debate or controversy.' Now, the landscape is very different, with hotly debated topics such as school starting age.
'Somehow the importance of play has been lost in recent decades. It's regarded as something trivial, or even as something negative that contrasts with "work". Let's not lose sight of its benefits, and the fundamental contributions it makes to human achievements in the arts, sciences and technology. Let's make sure children have a rich diet of play experiences.'
⛔ CÂU HỎI:
Do the following statements agree with the information given in Reading Passage 1?
In boxes 9-13 on your answer sheet, write
TRUE if the statement agrees with the information
FALSE if the statement contradicts the information
NOT GIVEN if there is no information on this
1. Children with good self-control are known to be likely to do well at school later on.
2. The way a child plays may provide information about possible medical problems.
3. Playing with dolls was found to benefit girls’ writing more than boys’ writing.
4. Children had problems thinking up ideas when they first created the story with Lego.
5. People nowadays regard children’s play as less significant than they did in the past.
(Trích Cam 14)
⛔ HIGHLIGHT TỪ VỰNG
Possibility (n): Khả năng
Self-control (n): Tự kiểm soát
Toddler (n): Trẻ mới biết đi
Pre-schooler (n): Trẻ nhỏ tuổi
Unfamiliar (adj): Không quen thuộc
Facilitate (v): Tạo điều kiện cho
Diagnosis (n): Chẩn đoán
Autism (n): Tự kỷ
Approach (n): Phương pháp
Stimulus (n): Sự kích thích
Serious (adj): Nghiêm túc
Debate (v): Tranh luận
Trivial (adj): Tầm thường
Fundamental (adj): Cơ bản
Contribution (n): Sự đóng góp
Các bạn làm đề nhé, cô chia sẻ đáp án dưới cmt nha!
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🎤Jolin 怪美的 ❤️ 歌詞翻譯及解析🎤
好多網友敲碗希望「怪美的」有英文字幕,讓全球粉絲可以聽懂這首絕世好歌❗️
在等待官方發布英文字幕之前(如果有的話XD),賓狗單字先貢獻我們的翻譯專業 🕶️
為國際粉絲提供可以參考的英文歌詞 🎉✌️
如果你還沒有在「蔡依林 Jolin Tsai - 怪美的 Ugly Beauty Official Lyrics Video」
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留言區找到我們,中英歌詞在這,歡迎搭配影片聽我們分析歌詞喔:
垂涎的邪惡 陪我長大
Lurking evil has always been around me
在軟爛中生長 社會營養
With little support from society, I’ve grown up in dirt
過去坑疤的 讓我站穩了
But those traumas nourished me and made me tough
那些神醜的 評誰亂正的
Those comments condemning the ugly and idolizing the beautiful
喔 我都笑哭了
oh, they made me laugh to tears
這什麼標準 急著決定適者生存
Survival of the fittest? Who are you to judge? What’s the rush?
愛我 恨我 非我
Self-loving, self-loathing, self-negating
有一些外在我 來自內在我
My external self reflects my internal self
聽誰說 錯的 對的
Who are you to say wrong or right?
說美的 醜的
Beautiful or ugly?
若問我 我看 我說
If you ask me, I would say
我怪美的
I’m insanely beautiful
看不見我的美 是你瞎了眼
If you can’t see my beauty, you must be blind
稱讚的嘴臉 卻轉身吐口水
Talking sweetly in front of me but saying foul things behind my back
審美的世界 誰有膽說那麼絕對
Who dares to set the standards of beauty
真我 假我 自我 看今天這個我 想要哪個我
True self, false self, my self. Who I wanna be today, it all depends on me
聽誰說 錯的 對的
Who are you to say wrong or right?
說美的 醜的
Beautiful or ugly?
若問我 我看 我說
If you ask me, I would say
我怪美的
I’m insanely beautiful
誰來推我一把 On to the next one
Who can take me to the next level?
一路背著太多道德活著令人會喘
I’ve shouldered too many moral responsibilities. Living has become such a torture
任誰去傷去想去講不相關就別管
Hurt me as you may. Defame me as you may. I don’t care
太婉轉的相處 靈魂拉扯左右為難
Being too polite to people can take a negative toll on the soul
正負能量全都吃掉
Positive and negative energy, I've taken them all in
美的醜的自有他存在的必要
Beauty and ugliness are both necessary.
愛恨隨你各自喜好
I don’t care if you love me or hate me
拒絕你的偽善擁抱
Save your disingenuous hugs
想要活得顯耀 回應心中惡之必要
To thrive, we have to unleash our inner evil
聽誰說 錯的 對的
Who are you to say wrong or right?
說美的 醜的
Beautiful or ugly?
若問我 我說我呢
If you ask me, I would say
我怪美的
I’m insanely beautiful
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Do you call this season autumn or fall? Autumn sounds so pretty but I’ve always called it fall.
Fall is probably my favorite season. The fall months always pass by so slowly, but not in a bad way. They’re the relaxing, in-between months before the holiday craze and new years prep. Here’s a reminder to take these upcoming months eeeasy. Let yourself float through this season - take a breath of the crisp autumn air, maybe try your first pumpkin spice latte! ??☕
We're back to the classic setup in this video with the purple walls, desk, candle, and hair clips ofc! ?
Also these contact lenses are NOT Solotica lenses, I finally found a realistic dupe! They're from this company called Panascope, I've linked them down below with my discount code so scroll a little if you want to cop (they're like half the price of Solotica lenses).
Oh and I realize my skin is kind of awful in this video, it was THAT time of month but nothing stops me from beating my face ?
Anyways, if you read this far, go ahead and click that notification bell~ ٩(๑◠ 3 ◠)۶♥ ? I have some Halloween looks planned and would love for you to see them!
Hoping you all fall in love this season, whether it's with someone else or just with yourself (because that's equally - if not even more so - as important) ♡
♡ xo
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P R O D U C T S
EYES:
Etude House Keep My Brows Fixer
ABH Dipbrow Pomade (Ebony)
Maybelline Master Conceal Concealer (20 Light)
Laura Mercier Translucent Loose Setting Powder
I Want Kandee Candy Eyes Eye Shadow Palette (Butterscotched, Hot Chocolate)
Colourpop Pressed Powder Eyeshadow (Note to Self)
Colourpop Pressed Powder Eyeshadow (Top Notch)
Colourpop I Think I Love You Pressed Powder Shadow Palette (Rule Breaker, Level Up)
Em Cosmetics Illustrative Eyeliner (Felt Tip)
Son & Park Beauty Water
Essence Lash Princess False Lash Effect Mascara
Duo Brush-On Adhesive With Vitamins (Clear)
Lilly Lashes (Miami)
Colourpop Pressed Powder Eyeshadow (Paper Tiger)
L'Oreal Telescopic Mascara (Blackest Black)
FACE:
Benefit The POREfessional Face Primer
Smashbox Photo Finish Primer Water
Fenty Beauty Pro Filt'r Soft Matte Longwear Foundation (190)
NYX Total Control Drop Foundation (True Beige)
Maybelline Master Conceal Concealer (20 Light)
Laura Mercier Translucent Loose Setting Powder
Kevyn Aucoin Sculpting Powder (Medium)
Ofra Cosmetics Americano Bronzer
Sigma Aura Powder Blush (Cor-de-Rosa) http://bit.ly/2xpnMyh
BECCA Shimmering Skin Perfector Pressed Highlighter (Champagne Pop)
Wet n Wild Beauty Photo Focus Matte Setting Spray - Matte Appeal
LIPS:
NYX Lip Liner (Natural)
Jouer Long-Wear Lip Crème Liquid Lipstick (Noisette)
MAC Lipglass (VIVA GLAM Taraji P. Henson II)
CONTACT LENSES:
(Solotica dupes) Panascope Sierra Brown http://bit.ly/2xp98XS
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Benefit Cosmetics Angled Brow Brush & Spoolie
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Sigma Shader - Lid Brush (E56) http://bit.ly/2xCPdo1
Shiseido Eyelash Curler
Real Techniques Miracle Complexion Sponge
Real Techniques Mini Miracle Complexion Sponge
Real Techniques Core Collection Contour Brush
Sigma Essential Brush Kit - Mr. Bunny [Eye Shading Brush (E55), Tapered Blending Brush (E40)] http://bit.ly/2ylTfy4
Newchic Large Brush https://goo.gl/BJCDHj
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Sigma High Cheekbone Highlighter Brush (F03) http://bit.ly/2y2ooL0
Sigma Shader - Crease Brush (E47) http://bit.ly/2fKsxIx
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Camera: Canon Rebel T6i
Lens: Kit Lens EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 IS STM Lens
Mic: Rode Videomic Go
SD Card: Lexar SDXC Class 10 64 GB
Editing Program: Final Cut Pro X 10.3.2
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Dress: Classy Baddies
Earrings: Urban Outfitters
Necklace: Vietnam
Hair clips: Vietnam
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