關於 kid女友幾歲 ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

網上又有「藍能否變黃」的第N回討論。其實當然有成功例子啦。

被催淚彈殻射到爆缸仍記掛著翌日能否帶女友和未來外母去旅行。這是個可歌可泣的愛情故事。

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雄仔（化名） 護士 31歲

2019年11月8日深夜，雄仔與女朋友路過旺角惠豐中心，遇上市民與防暴警對峙。他倆看見警察有異動，正想離開現場，但警方已開始發射催淚彈。彈殻擦過雄仔的頭部，即時血流如注，留下3cm的縫針疤痕。

「講起就激氣（光火），在前線受傷我反而開心。」當時旺角街頭有防暴警察列陣，市民向他們叫罵，「都係『撚狗』（調侃警察）。」然而「撚狗」會令警察暴怒，繼而報復，「現在他們把催淚彈當子彈用啦。」雄仔褂彩，同為護士的女朋友嚇得哭了，但他仍然冷靜，心想：「仆街了（靠）！明天還能飛嗎？」

因為參與抗爭，加上工時長，雄仔自6月以來都沒有好好陪伴女朋友，「她也是黃絲，覺得不應該拿這些事來詐型（發難），藏在心裏，但你會感受到她的不滿。」計劃已久的小旅行算是補償，還要帶著未來外母同遊，「始終是女孩，需要陪伴、關心，要有拍拖活動。」他去醫院縫針後，翌日按計劃出發。

雄仔的女友和家人知道他有上街遊行，卻不知道他是「家長」，助養了9名只有10幾歲的「子女」。8月18日的大型遊行，他到達終點後轉入夏愨道，看看有何事發生，「有人呼召社工，有個小朋友在哭、嚷著要自殺，因為屋企是藍絲。我想，我應該可以幫忙。」雄仔就此成為「家長」。子女又介紹其他子女，漸漸膝下承歡。

除了提供情緒支援，雄仔也為子女提供零用錢，「『文具』 好貴，我常叫他們以安全為先，有事就棄裝，再買過。」「仔女都好生性。要把塞錢偷偷攝入gear(抗爭裝備)，怕他們不肯要。」「文具」就是防毒面具和濾罐，每套大約1000港元，「我有工作，可以撐住，只是花了積蓄，對不起女友啦。」至今他已花了6、7萬元在子女身上，「她知道我花了1000元都肉赤到死（心疼得要死），怎敢跟她說？」

需要接濟的少年很多來自建制家庭，因為政見而被斷糧草、甚至斷六親。 若雄仔晚生十幾年，他很可能是其中之一，「我爸是紅底。自細他就跟我說票投民建聯（親北京政黨），不然就脫離父子關係。」2016年立法會新界東補選，他仍是投民建聯的周浩鼎，2014年雨傘運動當然沒有參與，「之前的抗爭關於政制，可能我未感受到對人生自由有重大威脅。實行雙普選需要時間，香港社會始終未成熟。」直到政府強推《逃犯條例》修訂，他才感到刀刃在脖子上，「明明是一國兩制， 可以引渡逃犯，就會造成破窗。事事都要跟大陸接軌，要引入計分制（社會信用評分制度）嗎？」怕中港區隔蕩然無存。

在2019年11月的區議會選舉，雄仔首次「倒戈」，「大氣候是分顏色（政治立場）投票。我也不相信泛民主派，不信有救世主，但我就是要建制派輸。雖然我仍然覺以地區事務而言，建制派做到的比反對派多。」因為官僚樂於賣人情予建制派。雄仔有個親戚曾購買私煙，遇著海關放蛇，因為數量頗多，有轉售的嫌疑，房屋署以從事非法勾當為理由，想收回他的公屋單位。後來由建制派區議員出面求情，才得以過關，「如果找泛民議員幫手，房署不會給他面子。」

雄仔與家人住在狹小的公屋單位，因為要收藏大量「文具」，近月已搬到朋友家中。他與女友關係穩定，卻未想過同居，「租金貴，如果可以搬出來，就可以結婚啦。」「我女友很依賴、很需要照顧。待這件事（抗爭）完結再談吧，不然應付不了。她去旅行連目的地都不知道，帶行李去機場就是了。我計劃好行程，她便跟著我走。」

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Hung（alias） 31 years old Nurse

In the middle of the night of November 8th, 2019, Hung and his girlfriend passed by Wai Fung Plaza in Mongkok and stumbled upon a confrontation between citizens and the riot police. The police fired tear gas bombs when the two started to leave. Hung was hit by a bullet case on his head, leaving a three-centimeter long scar.

“I get so mad every time I talk about this incident. It would have been worthwhile if I was injured at the frontline in a protest,” said Hung. At the time, there were riot police on the streets of Mong Kok. The public was yelling and having arguments with them. That made the police angry, so they retaliated. “Nowadays, the riot police use tear gas bombs as bullets,” said Hung. Hung’s girlfriend, a nurse, was crying from fear when he was hit. However, Hung was calm, only worrying about if he would need to cancel their trip for the day after.

Because of his participation in protests and long working hours, Hung hadn’t spent much time with his girlfriend since June. “She is also a pro-democracy supporter so she understands and never complains, but I knew she was upset about me not spending enough time with her. The get-away trip we had planned was considered to be ‘compensation’ for her. We were also taking my future mother-in-law with us. As a girl, I understand she wants company, care, and time from her boyfriend,” said Hung. After getting stitches at the hospital for his wound, Hung went on the trip.

Hung’s girlfriend and his family know that he participates in protests, but they don’t know he is also a “parent” who helps “raise” 9 teenagers. On the protest on August 18th, he was at Harcourt Road after the end of the protest. He heard someone calling for a social worker. A kid was crying and saying he wanted to commit suicide because his parents are pro-establishment supporters. Hung thought he could do something to help. That’s how he became a “parent” and ended up helping more kids.

In addition to providing emotional support, Hung also helps them financially by giving them money. “ ‘Stationery’ is expensive. I always remind them that safety is the first priority. They should leave their gear behind if they need to run. They can always repurchase their gear. These are good kids, and they don’t always accept my offers, so I need to secretly hide money into their gear for them,” said Hung. The ‘stationery’ is actually protective gear like gas masks and filter canisters. Each set costs approximately HK$1,000. “I have a job, so I can afford them. I spent my savings, so it made me feel bad for my girlfriend, as I didn’t tell her exactly how much I had spent on the kids,” said Hung. Until now, Hung had already spent over HK$60,000 to HK$70,000.

Most of the kids Hung helps are from pro-establishment families. Having different political views, these kids don’t get support from their families and are left with no money and no place to stay. Hung thinks if he were born ten years later, he could have been one of these kids. “My father is an extreme Beijing-backed establishment supporter. He has told me to vote for Democratic Alliance for the Betterment (DAB), a pro-Beijing party since I was a kid. Otherwise, he would disown me,” said Hung. Up until the 2016 New Territories East by-election in the Legislative Council, he still voted for DAB’s Chow Ho-ding, Holden. Of course, he didn’t participate in the Umbrella Movement in 2014. He said the previous protests were about the political system, so he might not have felt a major threat to his freedom then. “It took time to implement universal suffrage, and Hong Kong wasn’t ready.” It wasn’t until the government forced the revision of the “Fugitive Offenders Ordinance” that he finally realized, “If the one country two systems could extradite the fugitives, this change would become a breaking point, with everything in line with the mainland China.”

In the November 2019 District Council election, it was Hung’s first time he didn’t vote for the DAB, “Voters voted based on their political stance. I don’t believe the pan-democrats but I don’t want the pro-establishment parties to win either. Although I still feel that in terms of local affairs, the pro-establishment parties had done more,” said Hung, since the bureaucrats are willing to give favors to the pro-establishment parties. For example, a relative of Hung was caught buying illegal cigarettes, he was suspected of reselling them. The Housing Department wanted to take back his public housing unit on the grounds of engaging in illegal activities. Later, it was the district councilor of the pro-establishment party that helped resolve the issue.

Hung and his family live in a tiny public housing unit, which doesn’t allow him to keep all the ‘stationery’ there, so he moved in with his friend. But he never thought about moving in with his girlfriend. “Rent is expensive. If we could afford to move out, we would get married. She is very dependent and needs to be taken care of. We will wait and talk about marriage later until the civil rights protests are over,” said Hung.

攝 photo：高仲明 Ko Chung Ming
文 text：蔡慧敏 Choi Wai Man
譯 translate：Joanna Ng

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#擦乾淚水一起前行

離開日本的那天，長崎終於放晴；尚未乾燥的浴巾想必是書頁皺起的原因。
她出走了還放不下書和化妝品，行李從Osprey 88公升的登山後背包換成在關西唐吉軻德買的碩大廉價塑料旅行箱，後者在行經九州時已開始軟腳凹陷，輪子不聽使喚地抱怨時，她尷尬對同行的英國女士解釋:”That’s not me making the noise .”但其實用不著對這位路旁主動搭話、一塊尋找落腳處的紅髮女子解釋；儘管在島國中，她擔任的不是優雅的階級，母語裡的fancy word她不用，英文的也不會，外人前的她卻總想表現得體，粗魯和不懂事要收起。

她推著旅行箱在歐洲街頭時更是心驚膽顫，沒有比她更顯著的目標了。
不撐傘遮陽是很大的讓步。

就著青年旅館昏黃的光線，她終於把傑佛瑞．尤金尼德斯的《結婚這場戲》譯本看完；出走前她選書糾結好久，最後決定不帶舊書，擱在書櫃裡久未翻看的新書是時候消化了。

讀著讀著發現自己是個cliché，遲鈍死灰的心機躁不起來，只得下沉。

她人生低谷裡不免俗地往梭哈出走帶向，儘管她有意避免下標風格和Porn Hub意外雷同的遊記路數：「249天只愛陌生人之旅」、「一個女生的流浪字典」、「那些我用來交換沙發主人熱情款待的驚喜」、「19歲、人生第一場屬於自己的冒險」……沒那麼儀式性，沒那麼溫室花朵，沒那麼rich kid；此刻，她像是Westworld裡甫逃出人工造景的老鴇，手捧螢幕看著深信不疑的自由意志變成註定的工程指令一行行閃現；神經質的廢青米契爾、會在書中劃記符合自己個性描述的段落並反覆翻看自慰的米契爾，單戀朋友瑪德蓮未果，大學畢業後到歐洲壯遊──嚇。

「隱退，旅行，自殺等等，我想像出的這一切解決辦法都處在戀愛系統的內部：是戀人的隱居、出走或是輕生；如果說他想像自己閉門不出，或出走甚至死去，那麼他在想像中看見的就始終是個戀人：我念念不忘自己是戀人，同時又告誡自己別再做戀人。」──羅蘭‧巴特，《戀人絮語》－解決辦法

瞧，1980年代的美國學院廢青和台灣的厭青似乎沒那麼不同，厚薄適中的《戀人絮語》是提袋裡最秋的配件，「在大學要顯示自己多棒，提到的則往往是默默無聞的人。跟惠特尼這番交戰後過了幾週，瑪德蓮開始聽到有人提到『德希達』，她聽到他們談到『李歐塔』、『傅柯』、『德勒茲』、『布希亞』。談論這些主題的人多半是她出於直覺不以為然的人，來自上層中產階級，穿馬汀大夫牌靴子，身上有無政府主義標誌，正因此瑪德蓮對他們的熱忱半信半疑。」

What a cliché，而她的馬汀大夫還沒穿軟。

他人的故事變成自己遭遇的延伸。
決心重整自己後，她不碰頹喪糜爛的作品，乾脆，連日記都不要寫了。《全面啟動》中，建造夢境的素材不能取自真實記憶，有所憑依。

從傑佛瑞．尤金尼德斯的第一本著作《少女死亡日記》中枯燥小鎮的性壓抑，到《中性》受friendzone滋養的濕潤番紅花，朦朧的對象以為不承認就不算數，不睜眼就可以不面對……。

繩子沾泥漿甩出來的cliché，以為能從缺陷形式的不同來劃分的cliché，才發現她照顧的疤別人也有，她寫過的心情可能是小兒練字、命題寫作，他人的生命軌跡比較有藝術性，她就只是魯。

米契爾對一個風景凝視了若干年，不常見，所以夢想是把她當作日常；偶爾他矜持地說妳好美，偶爾他曖昧丟出一首不指名的詩，總歸是抒發他對風景的愛慕，但風景從來沒有回應。
視野裡可能很多小小人開著小小車過橋，建築群聚林立，會想細數每片磚瓦結構，也會想遠遠地看；清晨的樣子，晚霞的顏色，頭髮從濕到吹乾。
多個有機物構成的宇宙不說話，原來他一直在對適合投影的白牆說話，想來沒有回應是正常。
和米契爾有關係的人都不想和米契爾有關係（可能除了賴瑞，剛和火辣法國女友分手後出櫃的賴瑞，米契爾無法回應感情的賴瑞）。

所以他在人群中走動，可能是優雅、練達、病態的巴黎巷弄，可能是加爾各答的德蕾莎病房，每位患者的情緒和病徵都很外露，小動物一般，而他和他們都沒有關係。