最好的自己不在未來，就在現在。
認真回想，以前我好像在每一段關係中都是在扮演某一個角色，不由自主的在為每個對象做調整。不只有在戀愛上，有時候可能跟朋友、工作夥伴都是，尤其是在前輩面前，常常我都會本能反應似的改變自己。聲音要甜一點嗎？笑話要低級一點嗎？從穿衣服就可以看出，我今天是要跟誰吃飯。雖然是微調，但透露出了一件事，我好像不夠喜歡真正的自己，所以才會擔心大家也不會喜歡真正的我。我告訴自己即使累，但如果持續努力，有一天就能變成大家都喜歡的Lara。
久而久之我和世界的相處模式只有「由外到內」，會依照別人對我的反應去斷定我的下一步。大家會覺得我很好相處，我卻越來越不快樂。現在我慢慢開始懂了，原來我把順序弄反了。我該優先處理的是自己內心的感受，其他人買不買單，其實跟你一點關係都沒有。就像找另外一半，如果我跟夢中情人在一起，但我根本無法在他面前做自己，最後還是會走不下去。
我現在33歲，So What? 終於懂，「當下的自己」才是人生時間軸上最重要的！
對了，有人好奇這次「{}」的意思嗎？簡單說是「大括號」，在數學運算式中稱作「空集合」。數學不好的人就想像一個清空的行李箱吧。「空」不是無，而是無限可能。括號還有另外一個更好懂的意思，就是「優先處理」。將過去整理過後的自己，回歸純粹，態度成熟自信！(失戀後重新出發的人應該很有感觸吧！🤣)
Your best self is not in the future, but in the Now.
Looking back, I seem to have been playing a role in almost every relationship I was ever in. I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. Whether it was with friends or colleagues (especially seniors), I would modify myself almost instinctively. Should my voice be sweeter? My jokes dirtier? If you wanted to know who I was eating with that day, all you had to do was look at the clothes I was wearing.
The changes were subtle, but they still reflected a truth: I didn’t feel like the real me was enough so I was worried that other people would also find her lacking. I told myself that if I just kept working at it, I would someday become a version of Lara that everyone accepted.
Eventually I only knew how to get my cues from the external world. I would always base my next step on feedback I got from others. Most people considered me easy to get along with, but I grew more and more unhappy.
I think I had it all wrong. My first priority should have been listening to my inner voice. Whether or not other people agree with it is not in my control nor of my concern. Take looking for a partner. Even if I found the person of my dreams, it would never last if I couldn’t be myself around them.
I am 33 years old. So What? I finally understand that "the present self" is the most important thing on the timeline of life! It’s time to prioritize me!
By the way, is anyone curious about the meaning of "{}" this time? Besides the more commonly known representation of parentheses as prioritization, these curly brackets are called “the empty set”. The empty what? If like me, math is not your strongest suit, think of it as an empty suitcase. "Empty" doesn’t mean nothing, but infinite possibilities! What will you fill your life with this time?
2021全新專輯《來者何人{}》
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present by意思 在 [單字] 問一個單字present - 看板Eng-Class - 批踢踢實業坊 的推薦與評價
小弟指考生 英文菜B8
剛發在高中板被板皇刪文叫我查字典
但我查字典都找不到解答
只好上來求助
常看Youtube的影片
會看到開頭或結尾有 XXX Present
XXX 是人名或作者 頻道的暱稱
舉例假設作者是Peter
他就會印 Peter Present
那這個present是什麼意思 什麼詞性
剛有人說呈獻 或 作品
那這樣那個XXX不用+'s 所有格嗎？
還是要當動詞用？
當動詞用要怎麼翻啊
以我的低端英文查字典真的是搞不懂...
感謝大家
補充：
https://youtu.be/i8UjB8_e7dA
00：06秒處
Basketball Forever Presents
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所以閣下國小開始查字典
知道這個字在這個情況的用法和意思嗎？
※ 編輯: SiLenUniZak (49.217.215.221), 06/05/2016 13:31:25
查字典就解決那還需要這個版幹嘛啊...
如果那麼好懂那前幾樓的版友在討論啥？
你那麼厲害知道不講
在那邊腦補別人高中生不會查字典
再來怪人態度不好
這邏輯op
※ 編輯: SiLenUniZak (49.217.215.221), 06/05/2016 16:34:19
搜了一下你ID
原來閣下這樣回覆人是常態了呵呵
那我就懶得跟你浪費時間了
※ 編輯: SiLenUniZak (49.217.215.221), 06/05/2016 16:36:32
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